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Men want to be honored
Men would rather feel alone and unloved than inadequate and disrespected. Being loved is very fulfilling for men but when appreciation is missing the relationship is hollow, even disingenuous from their point of view.
Men are Apprehensive
Despite their ‘in-control’ exteriors, men feel like they are imposters, and are insecure that their inadequacies will be discovered. Be lovingly patient and low-key if/when an “inadequacy” is recognized or discussed.
Men want to be a mainstay
If a woman personally earned enough money to support the entire household it would make no difference to the mental burden he feels to provide. He is a hunter-gatherer. Finding a way to recognize and value this nature will show you are aware it is important.
Men want more physical intimacy
Your sexual desire for your man profoundly affects his sense of well-being and confidence in all other areas of his life! Putting preconditions and/or setting a non-sensical “goal to be met” before he “gets some” is rarely the way to bring your man closer.
Men are visual
Even happily married men feel pulled towards either live or recollected images of other women. You can help him visualize “you first” by being slightly unpredictable in a sensual sense. An example might be playfully mussing your hair in that special way. His mind will think about what he saw for hours on end!
In courtship men can be blockheads
Most men want to be romantic, but many don’t try because they doubt that they can succeed. Sometimes (many times?) they try and fail. When they do try, a positive reaction from you goes a long way to keeping the good relationship going.
Men care about their woman’s appearance
He needs to see you making an effort to stay healthy and “in shape” and will go to great lengths to help you succeed in this. Forgive his stuttering if you ask him the classic question “does this make me look bigger?” He knows he can never answer this one correctly!
Women need to feel cherished
Even if your relationship is great, your woman likely has a fundamental insecurity about your love. When that insecurity is triggered, she may respond in ways that confuse or dismay you until she feels reassured. Thoughtful, frequent (even small) actions to show you care for her and what she cares about is the key.
Women are emotive
Women deal with multiple thoughts and emotions from their past and present all at the same time. These cannot be easily dismissed. You can help with Compassionate listening (even if it is a never-to-be-understood, “non-logical” thing)
Women want security, in many forms
Your woman needs financial and emotional security as well as closeness with you. However, she prizes closeness with you so much that she will endure financial insecurity to get it.
Listening
She doesn’t want you to “fix it”, she just wants you to Listen and Care. When she is sharing an emotional problem, her feelings and her desire to be HEARD are much more important than the problem itself!
Women feeling unsexual does not mean she doesn't want You
Inside your smart, secure woman lives a little girl who deeply needs to know that you find her beautiful. She Needs to know that you only have eyes for her. Once reassured of that, she is much more likely to desire you fully. If thru actions and words you show you really ‘see’ the beauty of her, this part of life can be very rewarding for both of you.